Ah celebrity marriage – the figment of everyone’s imagination!
Reflecting on the breakup of Katy Perry and Russell Brand this is how it makes me feel. Sad as it is for the couple it is hardly a surprise – is it?
To me, getting married is a pretty big deal, you are making a huge commitment to one person for the rest of your days, possibly changing your name, spending a fortune, more than likely on one day, and doing it in front of your most precious people. This day is all about you and your partner, about how much you love each other and promising to make the effort to stay together with the hopes of sharing each moment together.
I don’t mean to be negative, but for celebrities it seems to be just a way to make more money and get more ‘air-time’. It’s as if getting married doesn’t really mean anything anymore because after all, you can just get a divorce if things get a bit difficult.
In terms of Katy and Russell they did appear to rush into things – I mean surely after 6 months you are still in a honeymoon phase?!It is highly unlikely you have encountered any ‘issues’ or bumps in the road you have to deal with as a couple. I wouldn’t recommend getting married straight away to anyone, celebrity or otherwise. It’s a big undertaking and although it can seem romantic and exciting to plan out your nuptuals – it is actually a legally binding state. Do people conveniently forget this??
There is always the typical celeb excuses for marriage breakdown – work schedules, travel, irreconcilable differences (whatever that means), not spending time in the same country/city/house/room! But I see this as totally irresponsible. I mean, really? Did your life suddenly completely change when you got a ring on your finger? Because surely you knew your lifestyle before you wed. You knew you travelled a lot with work and had a hectic schedule and were in the public eye etc. If you think marriage is going to change anything or make life easier you are not mature enough to go into a legally binding partnership.
All couples face challenges and difficulties in the course of their relationship, that’s life, but if you aren’t prepared to put in time, effort and patience to sort things out you are never going to be in a long-term relationship. Fact.
I know this generation wants everything now, now, now but this is not how relationships work and never will be.
Celebrities live in a different reality to the rest of us but this does not (as much as they might like) make them super human – they still have to be human to make things work. This is one thing you can’t just throw money at and hope for the best, things will finally collapse in the end without any effort. Yep even your shockingly bad marriage; cough cough, Mr Giggs, money won’t keep them around forever.
As a little girl I grew up with the idea that there is a Prince Charming out there for every girl, and he will always save the day no matter how tough times get. Now aged 27, I realise that this is just a tale of the fairy variety, yet I still believe in true love and that there is someone out there who will stand by you through pretty much everything.
I agree that celebrities live in a completely different world to us in terms of time and money, but when it comes to falling in love they don’t possess the secret to a happy relationship, and are still susceptible to break ups, affairs and troubled times. So when I heard the news that Katy and Russell were set to divorce, I was genuinely shocked, which may leave many laughing at my naivety but I seriously thought they would last the distance leaving other celebrity couples looking weak in comparison. The way in which they met, and how they were passionately in love with each other showed me the type of relationship I wanted, as stupid as that may seem to a lot of people.
Being a single girl, and one who has never truly felt the security of a trusting long term relationship, I obviously look at the world with rose tinted spectacles and don’t really look at the effects that my actions may have on the future. So when Katy and Russell were married after 6 months of knowing each other, it only served to reinforce the idea that true love really does exist and that it can strike you down when you least expect it.
The normal realms of dating bore the hell out of me; the first date, the texting, the waiting for him to call, playing hard to get, staying over after so many dates, the rule of how many dates before you have sex, not going away together until at least a few months: BORING! As I am a ‘live in the moment’ kind of girl, who believes that you can meet people who you just click with straight away and on a level which doesn’t compare to anything else you have ever experienced with anyone else.
Yes, celebrities do take the piss when it comes to marriage, and the recent 72 day waste of time that Kim Kardashian put everyone through was laughable, but perhaps she really is an insecure woman and at the time she thought she was doing something which she truly thought would last; we will just never know.
Relationships do take hard work, and bailing when things get tough; especially during a marriage, does nothing but make a mockery out of such a beautiful union. We will never really know what goes on behind closed doors, but the break-up of any couple is a sad time, no matter how much money or fame you possess.