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What being married means to me

24 Feb

Here’s the very first post from our brand new Hitched – Mrs Sam Harwood… take it away Sam!

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Wow – what a question. But I feel I must start this post with a disclosure – I’m writing with a cold. Not quite man flu, but I feel poorly and vulnerable. So right now being married means appreciating having a live-in pharmacist and feeling comfortable enough to not hide my face covered in snot and Vaseline.

If I were to answer this question on a different day, in a different mood would my answer change? Marriage changes over time and through the good and bad situations, but does the meaning?

Marriage to me is about family – starting your own new family unit of two and either breaking away from your old family or extending on it.  On my side we extended it. I didn’t just get a husband but my Dad got a son, my Nan got another grandchild and my sister an annoying big brother. Overall I think they like it.

It’s also means to me having someone on your side –note not always, Nik is certainly not a push over and when I’m wrong (although I never am!) he voices it. But generally I love having my backup support system. After a long day at work and an extremely annoying colleague I relay my story and whether he understands, and or, cares Nik always has my back. And the very next evening he will do the same again. Yes I love bitching with my girlfriends, but if I called them every night to do it, how long would it be before my calls reached their voicemail?

Although I have played the role of Little Miss Confidence the truth is a very different matter and my support system has slowly helped with that, probably without him ever knowing!

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I have very recently been asked to be a bridesmaid and for the research of this post I turned to my newly engaged friend and asked the same question to determine whether my views have changed.  I have been married for four years – it’s a long way off a lifetime but beats Britney’s 55 hours and Kim K and Kris Humphries 72 days! Her answer was simple; marriage meant the ultimate commitment – the forever.

My thoughts exactly, so perhaps what marriage to me doesn’t change, maybe you lose sight of what it means when you argue over money or the washing up. But overall you have made the ultimate commitment and yes there is means of escape. I’m not afraid of divorce and will always promote the “divorce is better than an unhappy marriage” message. But right now I type as a lucky girl, happy in my marriage. But at the same time you must feel like it is forever, if you feel you have an easy means of escape you may not put in the work marriage needs.

Like every marriage is different, so are our meanings. But this is mine. Now I turn to you – what does your marriage mean to you?

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She’s a knockout: Rachael Cordingley Interview

15 Aug

Life as a modern woman can be hectic; just ask Our Wedded Miss about her husbands sport fetish, or Miss Independent on her fear of blokes with bad teeth. But add in a glamorous modelling career, a 2 year old son and a fella who floors blokes for a living and things just get a whole lot crazier. Here we chat to the beautiful Rachael Cordingley, on life as a model, mother and being the other half of the Cobra, Mr Carl Froch.

Picture courtesy of Neil Dobias at Force 1 Management

ROUND 1: We are suckers for a romantic story, so how did you and Carl first meet? We met through a mutual friend who thought we would get on well together, then we spoke on the phone for hours and I felt like I had known him for years. Was it a whirlwind romance? Yeah it was; I know that sounds cheesy! We met up in London and spent the weekend together; stayed in a hotel with separate rooms! Then we never really parted, as I came up to Nottingham and just travelled back to London for work.

ROUND 2: Do you find it difficult as a modern woman juggling a glamorous career with motherhood? Well I’ve been modelling since I was 19, so taking a step back and enjoying time with Rocco has been great, but he has just turned 2 so I am definitely going to get back into it. I had to start training straight away to get my figure back, as I put on three stone during the pregnancy, but luckily I’ve managed to get back down to how I was before, if not a little lighter.

ROUND 3: How difficult on a scale of one to ten is it watching Carl fight? Probably about an 8; it’s very stressful and I don’t see him as much so we do miss him. But I don’t worry about him getting hurt, I just know how much he wants to win. But his last fight against Lucian Bute was brilliant, I loved it, and I never get bored watching it back; even though I know what’s going to happen I still scream at the telly!

ROUND 4: Some people dub you and Carl as the Posh and Becks of boxing. Do you welcome the celebrity attention, or do you take it on the chin (if you’ll pardon the boxing pun!) We just take it as it comes really, I mean we’ve done various magazine and newspaper spreads together, but we are a low key couple as Carl doesn’t really like that lifestyle. But with my line of work it comes as part of it, but Carl is so down to earth and prefers to focus on his passion for boxing.

ROUND 5: How does Carl handle the attention you receive from being a glamour girl? And do you ever struggle with the female attention that he may receive? From time to time we both get jealous, but we’ve got each other and nothing else can come between us. Say if any men come up to me the Carl will look over just to keep an eye out, but we both laugh it off. Girls have gone up to Carl before and I just make sure my presence is known!

ROUND 6: If a movie were made about Carl’s life, who would you want to play him and also yourself ohh, erm, well Carl is a massive fan of Sylvester Stallone, so I’d say him, although I prefer Jason Statham or Clive Owen! But for myself I’d have to go with Megan Fox.

ROUND 7: As a little girl, did you envisage yourself getting married, or does it all depend on meeting that one right person? Definitely. When I was growing up I was more of a tomboy and in to my sports, and it was never on my mind to get married or have children, so all of my family were surprised when I announced I was expecting Rocco, as they never thought I would be the first to have a baby! But when you find that right person, then everything just clicks into place. Do you think you will have more kids with Carl in the future? Yes definitely. I want three boys!

ROUND 8: Do you feel any pressure to keep in good shape being with a world class athlete such as Carl. We tend to do things together; when Carl isn’t training we pretty much do everything together and we are like best friends. So he might run and I’ll cycle, or we’ll both go for a run, or go to the gym together. Have you ever done any boxing training with Carl? Yes, I’ve just started back up actually. Carl will come with me to the gym and show me what to do and where I may be going wrong, then he’ll hold the bag or pads too. I did a charity boxing match about a year ago, so completed a months training with Carl and his trainer, Robert McCracken, which was amazing for shifting that half stone of baby weight! Sound like the perfect relationship to us Rachael! Yes it’s great, we tell each other everything and are always laughing!

ROUND 9: As a beautiful young woman, do you have a strict beauty regime and do you have any pearls of wisdom to help us on our way to becoming stunners? Ohh ha ha ha, now let me think… Do you tend to have no make up days? I always have them! We all like to put make up on, but just to go to the shop it’s nice to have non on and to pop a ponytail in. But I do enjoy getting dressed up and doing my hair etc, but some days you just need to let your skin breathe. I always cleanse, tone and moisturise, and I am a big fan of Sk:n products, especially to remove any make up.

ROUND 10: What is your number one go to beauty product? I like Clarins products, but at the moment I am using Sk:n Exfoliating Cleanser.

ROUND 11: If you could only buy clothes from one shop for the rest of your life, which one would it be and why? I’d have to say high street stores, as everything is always up to date. If I had to choose it would be Topshop, but I’m also a big fan of River Island and Zara.

 So there you have it, pretty, funny and down to earth; Thank you Ms Rachael Cordingley xxx