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What being married means to me

24 Feb

Here’s the very first post from our brand new Hitched – Mrs Sam Harwood… take it away Sam!


Wow – what a question. But I feel I must start this post with a disclosure – I’m writing with a cold. Not quite man flu, but I feel poorly and vulnerable. So right now being married means appreciating having a live-in pharmacist and feeling comfortable enough to not hide my face covered in snot and Vaseline.

If I were to answer this question on a different day, in a different mood would my answer change? Marriage changes over time and through the good and bad situations, but does the meaning?

Marriage to me is about family – starting your own new family unit of two and either breaking away from your old family or extending on it.  On my side we extended it. I didn’t just get a husband but my Dad got a son, my Nan got another grandchild and my sister an annoying big brother. Overall I think they like it.

It’s also means to me having someone on your side –note not always, Nik is certainly not a push over and when I’m wrong (although I never am!) he voices it. But generally I love having my backup support system. After a long day at work and an extremely annoying colleague I relay my story and whether he understands, and or, cares Nik always has my back. And the very next evening he will do the same again. Yes I love bitching with my girlfriends, but if I called them every night to do it, how long would it be before my calls reached their voicemail?

Although I have played the role of Little Miss Confidence the truth is a very different matter and my support system has slowly helped with that, probably without him ever knowing!


I have very recently been asked to be a bridesmaid and for the research of this post I turned to my newly engaged friend and asked the same question to determine whether my views have changed.  I have been married for four years – it’s a long way off a lifetime but beats Britney’s 55 hours and Kim K and Kris Humphries 72 days! Her answer was simple; marriage meant the ultimate commitment – the forever.

My thoughts exactly, so perhaps what marriage to me doesn’t change, maybe you lose sight of what it means when you argue over money or the washing up. But overall you have made the ultimate commitment and yes there is means of escape. I’m not afraid of divorce and will always promote the “divorce is better than an unhappy marriage” message. But right now I type as a lucky girl, happy in my marriage. But at the same time you must feel like it is forever, if you feel you have an easy means of escape you may not put in the work marriage needs.

Like every marriage is different, so are our meanings. But this is mine. Now I turn to you – what does your marriage mean to you?



Wedding wardrobe woes

2 Aug

Our Wedded Miss has heard the words ‘I Do’ more than Miss Independent has been told ‘it’s not you, it’s me.’ Here she opens her wardrobe and vast make up counter to talk about that perfect wedding look.

I really wanted to go for a summery look for our good friends ‘the Cravens’ wedding, as me and the hubby had just come back from Ibiza and I had a lovely tan, plus the weather was looking promising so I wanted to make the most of it!

My dress was a peachy, nude colour from good old Topshop (£30), pleated with spaghetti straps and just above the knee. You don’t want to look like you are going on a night out when you attend an all day wedding or like you’re trying to out do the bride! So this dress was perfect not too clingy or too short! Plus it was excellent for me having over done it on the all inclusive the week before because it was nice and flowing!


My shoes are from New Look (£27.99) and went perfectly with my dress and summer theme. The peach strip gives them a bit of colour and the pearls and diamanté a bit of bling which I love and with a tan the colours are gorgeous. Considering how high they are they were reasonably comfortable, although obviously I was still dancing barefoot at midnight!!


I wanted to keep my make up fairly light and colour coordinated with my outfit so I started off with Garnier BB cream for oily/combination skin which gives surprisingly good coverage. I used Posietint by Benefit on my cheeks and Soap and Glory Love at First Blush to give me a rosy glow and highlight my cheekbones.

Obviously i applied lashings of They’re Real by benefit on my top and bottom lashes and then some Urban Decay eyeshadows on my lids in Scratch (peach), Snatch (glitter peach) and Uzi (silver)!
I always line my eyes with Benefit waterproof eyeliner because it’s amazing and I can’t leave the house without it!

I applied a MAC lipstick in Vegas Volt which is a lovely peachy orange colour and goes well with a tan and has great staying power.
I finished off by spritzing my face with Urban Decay All Nighter make up setting spray to fix it all in place for a long day of smiling, crying, talking and laughing!


Because I already had a tan (jammy!) I just used some Sally Hanson Airbrush Legs tan glow leg make up to even out my legs and give them a gorgeous sparkle – the stuff is fabulous, like wearing tights but better!!

I finished off spritzing myself with my Chloe Rose perfume which I bought especially for my own wedding and brings back beautiful memories.

And then I was ready to enjoy the wedding of Michael and Louise – it was a fabulous and fun day and I felt beautiful as well which is a bonus.